The trigger wire from the driver side heater switch is light blue. The passenger switch is light blue/black. Use an output trigger from the alarm that is pulsed instead of constant. And if I remember correctly, the trigger wire is +12vdc, so you'll have to use relays to convert the negative output from the alarm to a positive pulse to the factory signal wires. I installed mine so I that both seats come on when I press one of the aux channels on my remote. It works just like the switch. In other words, if the aux channel is pressed once, the heater turns on high. If I press it a second time, the seat heater goes to low. And then a 3rd time it turns off, etc.
Make sure you test the wires I provided to make sure they are indeed correct and it is a positive signal (been a while since I installed mine).
Which RS system are you using?